A Typical or Atypical Pastor's Wife-whichever one you come to believe



Welcome to the barnyard. Watch your step! The things written here are raw and unedited. Just my thoughts thrown on a page as they flow from my heart.



Thursday, September 10, 2015

Sometimes You Have To Stop And Think

I am a very social person. My personality lends itself to interactions with other people.  Without them, I grow dull and lifeless. It's just the way I'm made.

I work in a secular business. Not one person in my office is a born again Christian. In fact, "fundies" are made fun of by some. I don't care because I wouldn't trade Christ for their roller coaster lives, their fancy cars or their feeling of superiority in this world because He's so much bigger than all of that!

Everyone in my office is very "nice." They do and say "nice" things to each other. They treat others "nicely." It's enjoyable to come to work with a minimum of drama amongst my co-workers. There's no awkward situation or silences. We all get along and work as a team. I can chit chat with anyone in my office and we both enjoy it. I am well liked by all my co-workers.

Some of the people in my office are very good friends. They do things together after work and on weekends. They visit at each other's desks during down times. Some days I feel a little left out and find myself wishing I had a close friend here. Then I stop myself and think about it.

I was more accepted before people found out that my husband is a minister. There was a marked difference in how I was treated before and after that little fact came to the light. Then people found out that I was a fundamental believer of the Bible and that alienated even more people. Since most idle conversation in my office is about drinking or tv shows that I don't watch, that kind of leaves me at a loss to chat a lot. When people forget that I'm here and start talking about immoral topics, they eventually come to their senses and look to see if I'm paying attention. Once a group of them went off on Pastor's kids and all of the sudden realized that I had Pastor's kids and they felt bad. There were a few observations I wanted to interject into that whole conversation but I pretended not to notice.

Some people might think that I am not melting into their world enough. I, on the other hand, know that they have a certain amount of respect for me because of my beliefs-most of them anyway. My job is not to assimilate myself into their world. That's what I left when I accepted Christ! Why would I want to go back there? My job is to yank them out of their world and into mine!

The Bible says that "bad company corrupts good manners." Jesus ministered to the masses, but He spent most of His time with the 12. Sometimes I just have to stop, think and remember that I am not of this world. I'm not going to fit in. I DON'T WANT TO FIT IN! I know that their rejection of me is not because of me. It's because of Christ and His teachings. On those days when I'm not included in gossip, immoral speech, and pettiness I need to remember to rejoice! God is pleased with me! When the "nice" people are collaborating, I need to remember that although they may be "nice", they are still lost! My friendships are within His body and what a great group of friends God has given me! I am blessed.

Just every now and then I have to stop and think!


Thursday, September 3, 2015

Walking Intentionally


Last year I had to have some physical therapy for a problem with my feet, legs and hips.  The first thing the therapist noticed when I took off my shoes was the long hard callous on the outside edge of my foot.  She told me “You’re not using your whole foot when you walk so the muscles in your feet are compensating for the muscles you aren’t using.  That is what is causing your problems.  Basically your feet are running at half strength and doing the work of your knees and hips too.”  This all started with trauma to my hip due to a car accident clear back in 1999.  Over the years, it just grew worse until I could hardly walk at all.

So the first thing she made me do was to start walking intentionally, that is concentrating with every step how my foot was striking the ground, making sure that I was using my whole foot when I walked. In essence I had to learn how to walk again.   I felt like a toddler as each tentative step was done with great deliberation.  I often caught myself staring at my feet while I walked.  I must have been quite a sight!  But as I worked at it, the callous began to disappear, my feet started to hurt less and my knees and hips began to feel stronger. Between the exercises and the intentional walking, my need for therapy rapidly disappeared.  

There is a spiritual lesson here to be learned.  Not only must I walk intentionally in the natural, I must also walk intentionally in my spiritual life.  And in order to avoid problems, I must use all the gospel to live my life.  

15 Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, 16 making the most of your time, because the days are evil. 17 So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. 18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord; 20 always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father; 21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.

It is an easy thing to walk half-footed.   I know!  Certain doctrines of the Bible become our “pet” doctrines by which we live our lives, while other doctrines remain uninvestigated or applied.   For instance, if all we focus on is the doctrine of the cross, we live weak, pathetic, defeated lives because we have not embraced the doctrine of the resurrection power that is now ours through the indwelling Christ.  We simply stand before the cross in a sin-confess cycle and never receive the power of the new nature and the new life in Christ to live above sin so that it is no longer our master. The verse “…behold all things become new” is filed along with all those verse we say but don’t live. 

If we ignore the doctrine of healing that is so clearly stated in scripture, we end up accepting sickness, weakness and disease as “God’s will” or “a lesson God is teaching me.”  If our sickness is God’s will, why do we fight it with medicine and treatment?  We would rather walk half footed than to admit that maybe our revelation and faith levels could use a boost.

And the most neglected doctrine of the Bible is the baptism in the Holy Spirit. Because many depend on what they’ve been taught and have not sought the Lord with an open heart concerning this wonderful gift He will give to ALL believers, they limp through life attempting to build the Kingdom without the most important tool in their toolbox.  

6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. 7 Therefore do not be partakers with them; 8 for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light 9 (for the fruit of the Light consists in all goodness and righteousness and truth), 10trying to learn what is pleasing to the Lord. 11 Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; 12 for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret. 13 But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light…

The solution to this problem is that we must be people of the Word.  We must believe that the power, presence and will of God has not diminished through the years, if anything, with the indwelling Holy Spirit, it has to have increased on the earth.  If we could truly realize what it is that lives in and through us, our walk would be so much different.  We would not limp through life and our feet would be firmly planted with each step. 

Each day we must be in the Word, soaking in it, asking questions concerning it, praying and confessing it into our own life and experience.  When we walk intentionally, we use all that God has given us to have victory and success in the Christian life.