I belong to 3 on-line groups for Pastor’s wives. Invariably they get to talking about situations and the people involved in those situations as well. It just seems that there are women in every church who seem to think that it’s their job to develop character in the Pastor’s wife by causing her trouble. These women are referred to by the Pastor’s wives as “gravy ladies.” It seems that one particular Pastor’s wife did a dinner and one of the congregation members that was “helping” tipped the Pastor’s wife’s breaking point over insisting that she make gravy with the ham drippings, thus the term gravy lady.
I am so thankful that the only gravy lady I have in my life is the one who lovingly makes biscuits and gravy for breakfast once a month and shares it with the entire church! By the Lord’s providence, my church is just full of wonderful, Godly, loving women. I don’t wish that any of them would find another church. What I really wish is that we all had more time to spend together. No matter what I attend at church, I never cease to leave feeling edified and encouraged. We’ve had gravy ladies in the past, but they don’t seem to hang around long because my church ladies just don’t put up with their ungodly behavior.
There will always be people in the church who like you more than others may like you. That’s just the way it is, but I don’t think that there are any women in my church who would wish me harm or sadness or trouble in any way. Maybe you might think this normal, but if you have never been a Pastor’s wife, you might just be clueless to some things that come with the job and that go on during the week when you are not watching which I will not burden you with because this blog is all about being thankful!
And if you are a gravy lady, let me say two words. STOP IT! Pray for your Pastor’s wife and let the Holy Spirit do the correcting. Until you have walked in her shoes, you really don’t know what you are talking about. Unwad your panties, drop to your knees, repent of your stinking attitude and self-righteousness, and genuinely pray for her. She directly affects your Pastor and he directly affects you-he should be anyway! Stop shooting yourself in the foot! Stop being ungodly! Stop insisting on having your own way and if you really need to, make your own gravy! Better yet, cook the ham too so your Pastor’s wife doesn’t have to! Amen!