A Typical or Atypical Pastor's Wife-whichever one you come to believe



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Thursday, March 29, 2012

Personality Tests

I recently applied for a job with a local company known as the best place to work in my state.   I've never met anyone with anything bad to say about working there.  When I talked with some friends about the interview process, which is quite extensive, they mentioned that if I was a consideration for the position, they would send me to a local agency that does personality testing.  I would take a test to find out what type of personality I am and then they would explain how my personality differs from other personalities and how I should interact with other personality types that I may find myself working with.  A good idea, and probably one of the reasons why this place has such a nice working atmosphere.

As I was thinking about this, it caused me to giggle.  My husband and I did these tests a few years ago with our church staff.  Now most people are a mix of personalities, which is why we are all so different.  Some are 60/40 or 80/20 between two personalities.  Some are even a mix of three personalities.  Rarely do you find people who are over 90% just one personality.  When my husband and I took these tests, we discovered that he was 98% a "D" (driven-hates to be wrong and won't admit it even they know they are, organized, a delegator, a loner type person) personality and I was 96% a "S" (sanguine--life of the party, unorganized, laid back, happy go lucky, people loving person).  Of the four personalities listed on this test, there were two that the test information recommend never marry.  You guessed it!  The "D" and the "S".

Now my husband is sure that they wrote these test with us in mind.  You see, my husband's name begins with "D".  My name, although it begins with "C" often hits other people's ears as "Sandy" because of my I-grew-up-in-the-mountains-of-southern-Maryland dialect.  

But through the years my husband and I have worked through all those personality quirks and have developed not just a give and take attitude towards them, but we've learned to really appreciate the strengths of the other's personality.  It causes us to rely on one another too because what he is lacking in his personality, I am strong in and vica versa.  They say opposites attract.  That certainly is true in our case!    People often want to know how we can get along so well, seeing that we have such conflicting personalities.

There is a one word answer for this:  JESUS

I was ready to run home to Maryland after just one year of marriage to this fellow.  And he was ready  for me to run home to Maryland.  But then JESUS happened, first in my life and a 1 1/2 months later in his.  As we grew in Christ, we grew towards each other til now I'm not sure which way I love him more, as my husband, lover, and friend or as my Pastor and brother in Christ.

As I thought about what the Bible says about our relationship with one another, I realized that if we would just treat each other as the Bible instructs us to, we would all get along and the need for personality tests would not even exist!   Just reading through the "one another" verses of the Bible, it was clear that if we truly practiced what the Bible preaches concerning our relationships with others, the whole world would be a wonderful place.  It will be someday, when Christ returns to set up His kingdom.  Then we will see this fully in action.  So I figure that no matter what my personality test shows, it doesn't matter.  I have the mind of Christ and that makes me act like Christ and He was perfect in his dealings and interactions with others.  Now, don't go thinking I think I'm perfect. I know I'm not.  After all, I live with a "D" personality and he is quite willing and able to tell me where I fall short!!!  LOL!

There is a lesson to learn in all of this.  The WWJD principle can really apply.  If you are struggling in a relationship, just start to treat that person like Jesus would.  Learn to see them as God the Father does.  Learn to view them through the eyes of a Savior that gave His life's blood for them.  Learn to have the patience of the Holy Spirit who is at work in them.  They're not perfect either, but if you remember that we have all come the same road of human disaster, then we are apt to have more patience, more compassion, more mercy and more understanding for them than if we just rely on the specifics of a personality.  People were drawn to Jesus-all kinds of people!  If we will just act like Him, then they will be drawn to us as well.  It's very simple.  That's what I like about God.  He makes everything just so simple to understand and practice when it comes to relationships.

Very Simply--think of them first!


Wednesday, March 21, 2012

A Little Disappointed and ALOT Punchy!

I had a little disappointment today.  I am currently looking for full-time work.  My body is having trouble keeping up with a house, church work and a full and a half time lawn business.  I'm not getting any younger, you know!  There was a sweet job at the local university that I was praying for.  Never did feel a certainty about it though, but I would have been perfect for it!  Evidently God didn't feel that it would be perfect for me.  It was in the basketball recruiting office as an administrative assistant working primarily with the recruits and their families.  It required someone with good people skills--check!  I think it would help that I actually played NCAA basketball in college with a very reputable team.  It also couldn't hurt that one of my children and my husband graduated from the university.  And the office work is no sweat for me since I managed files for over 2000 missionaries in one job, managed 225 volunteers in another and have owned my own successful small business for the last 8 years while managing a house, four kids, homeschooling, a Pastor (well, I manage his laundry, his diet-or lack thereof,  go with him to counseling appointments sometimes and handle counseling appointments for him sometimes).  But, alas, I didn't even get an interview.  I would have loved being back on campus, around the students, working with people instead of rubbing shoulders with smelly, loud machinery all day.  After I worked there a year, my sons could attend and get a huge tuition break, I could go back to school myself, and my hubby was hoping for season tickets to the basketball games!  LOL!  Sorry to disappoint you honey!

Many would say to me, "well, it's really hard to get into the university unless you know someone. You just have to keep trying.  It takes about a year and you just have to apply for everything!!"  Believe me, I know about that.  My whole desktop is full of PDF cover letter files that say "job #?????.  If I have to write one more time that I'm deatiled oreented, I'm gonna scream!  LOL!  Why do they even put that in a job ad??  What else would you want?  I've never read an ad that said "must be sloppy and inattentive!"

 About now, I'm getting a little creative in my cover letter writing knowing that sooner or later, one of them will catch someones eye.  I'm half tempted to just submit a letter that says:

HEY!  I'M A TALENTED PERSON WHO IS HONEST, WITH AN EXCELLENT WORK ETHIC, WHO IS FRIENDLY AND EASY TO GET ALONG WITH THAT NEEDS A JOB!  I CAN LEARN ANYTHING YOU NEED ME TO LEARN -(except chemistry),  I'LL ACTUALLY SHOW UP TO WORK!  I'LL TAKE CARE OF YOUR STUFF!  I'LL GO THE EXTRA MILE OR MILES-WHATEVER IT TAKES!  I'LL WORK MY TAIL OFF FOR YOU, I'LL BE A POSITIVE ADDITION TO YOUR OFFICE AND I'LL BRING THE BLESSING OF GOD WITH ME CAUSE I'M HIS KID AND HE CAN'T HELP HIMSELF......IF YOU'LL JUST GIVE ME SOME WORK!!!!!!

Not sure that would work, but it sure did feel good typing it in all caps!

I once considered standing along the main highway with a sign saying "Will Work!", but then realized that it might be misconstrued the wrong way and decided against it!  Do I sound desperate?

  As I thought about this whole process, I got a little silly.

There's a commercial on t.v. where a guy was spending too much money on on-line dating service fees so he tried a karaoke bar where he sang "check me out, I have a  pleasant disposition and friends love my spinach dip.  5' 10, ....blah, blah, blah......My sign is Sagittarius, I'm into Spanish cheese, my hairline is receding but I'm getting a weave.....GETTING A WEAVE!?"  No matter how many times I see it, it makes me giggle.  But it's inspired me too!

So I've spent some time thinking about submitting a video cover letter that would go something like this:

Check me out...
I've managed to raise four kids and stay happy with one man for almost 30 years
My graying head speaks plainly of maturity- that I'm not wet behind the ears
I'll actually show up for work
And remember who is boss
According to my husband, if you don't hire me,  it's your loss!  YEP, IT'S YOUR LOSS!
So how bout giving me a chance?

Okay, now that I've got all that off my chest, there are a few things I DO know-for sure!

~I may not know someone, but I DO know GOD!  And He knows I need a job!  And He can open doors I could never open even if I knew a million someones.  What's better is that HE WILL!

~I am all those things I said above-but only by His grace in my life!  Thing is, He just keeps pouring grace upon grace upon grace onto me, so eventually someone is going to be thrilled that they hired me and I'm going to be happy in my work while I let that grace spill out onto all those I work with!  I can't wait.  I gave it my best shot, but my mower just doesn't respond when I try to strike up a conversation!  My hubby once said that I'm the only person that he knows of who could have a conversation with an inanimate object, but this mower has been hardened like steel and won't respond!  LOL! Sorry!  That was really lame!

~I know that if God is for me, nothing and no one can stand against me!

~I know that God will supply above and beyond ALL that I could ask or think-even about a basketball job!

 It's amazing at how quickly your heart rate drops and your countenance lifts when you think on these things!

Okay!  I feel so much better now.  Thanks for listening!







Tuesday, March 20, 2012

You Are the Lord's Knitting Project!

Knitting is one of my favorite leisure activities.  I just enjoy it.  I like the creativity it requires.  I like that it's a little technical-it makes me feel smart!  LOL!  I really like the fact that the individual stitch or rows of stitches are all different and seemingly unrelated to each other.  Many times a pattern is so complicated that it makes no sense as to how the individual stitches and rows fit into the finished pattern, but if I follow very closely and take it one stitch at a time, then when I'm finished I have a beautiful intricate design that has been woven into my knitting.  Sometimes I worry that I'm going to get to the end of the pattern and it isn't going to look like it should because I can't check it along  the way.  When that happens I have to rip out a lot of stitches and start over.  Sometimes I'm just tempted to give up.

Our lives are like knitting.   They are an intricate pattern designed by the Lord.  He patiently knits and purls all through the years forming a beautiful design.  He sees the beautiful pattern completely finished in his mind's eye.

Unfortunately, we don't.   We  can't see how all the stitches of our, with their twists and turns, can possibly fit together to form anything remotely beautiful.  To us, they may seem like a jumbled up mess that couldn't possibly turn out the way they are supposed to.  And sometimes we too are tempted to just give up!

The key to successful knitting and to life is to follow the directions closely.  Even when you can't possibly see how everything fits together, just take it one stitch, or one day, at time.   God has grace for us in every day and that grace is enough to help us, heal us and lead us through every twist and turn until the pattern of our lives is complete.  His Word holds the key to every stitch that God is knitting.  It is our instruction book for life.  If we adhere closely to its instruction, making it our pattern for life, the beautiful thing our lives will become will surprise and delight us.  His design is far more than we could ever imagine or create on our own.   He is, after all, the Master Designer.  And our lives are His creation-a masterpiece of the Almighty.

Are you willing to submit to His pattern?  Are you willing to let Him twist and turn, knit and purl in your daily life without needing to understand or see what He is doing?  Can you trust that even when you don't comprehend what He is doing that He is creating something beautiful, something useful, something good?

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  in all your ways, submit to Him and He will make your paths straight."  

His Word is true.  He does not lie!  Believe Him today and rejoice that your life is in His loving and capable hands.








Sunday, March 11, 2012

The Unprofitable Word of God?

Disclaimer: Lest you think I am being judgemental in this writing, let it be known that this is written to myself as much as anyone else.  When things don't line up, we need to get honest with ourselves, with the Word of God, and with what we have seen happen to others or things will never change.

Wow!  I've moved one whole verse!  I am now "stuck" on Hebrews 4:2. 

"For indeed we have had good news preached to us, just as they also; but the word they heard did not profit them, because it was not united by faith in those who heard."


This verse starts out with "good news preaching".  I like that!  But then comes the snag.  Sometimes the Word of God does not profit the one who hears it.  WHAT??  Isn't the Word a powerful sword?  Doesn't it never return void without accomplishing what it was sent to do?  Can't we just use the Word of God to get what we want when we want it?  Isn't the name of Jesus some magic formula that we use in prayer to assure that our prayers will be answered?   From a lot of the preaching I hear on Christian t.v., you would think this is so.  (I will stop here because Christian t.v. is a particular "burr in my saddle", so to speak.)

We  hear a lot of preaching!  We see some results.   If the Word is a seed, then shouldn't the harvest exceed the planting?  We plant A kernel of Corn.  We reap an EAR of corn.  After much research, it has been determined that an ear of corn produces, on the average, 16 rows of corn kernels.  I don't know exactly how many kernels but lets suffice it to say it's a BUNCH!

What is the cause of our seeming failure to bring the written Word of God into our practical reality?   How can we read a PROMISE of God and not receive it?  Didn't God promise His children??  Didn't He promise healing?  Didn't He promise provision?  Didn't He promise peace?  Didn't He promise joy?

When is the Lord's Word unprofitable? 

When it is not mixed with faith!  In order for the Word of God to be fully effective and active in our lives, it must be mixed with our faith.

My kids love koolaide when they're thirsty.  (They are sugar addicts, but that's for a different post.)  There may be koolaide sitting in the cupboard, but if they don't take it out and mix it with water, their thirst will not be quenched.  Even though the koolaide is sitting right there for them, it can still be unprofitable in their lives because it is not mixed with water.

This makes me wonder if the reason that we see so little of the promises of God in our own personal lives has very little to do with God and very much to do with us.  It's not that He has broken His promise.  It's not even because God is sovereign.  It's because we did not mix it with faith. 

What is faith?  Perhaps that is the question we should be asking.  I may have koolaide, I may have water, but if I don't know how to turn on the faucet, it will be unprofitable for me.

A few posts ago I talked of Paul in prison, called to preach the Word of God.  But he sat in bonds.  I mentioned that he didn't allow his bonds to become bondage.  How could he do that?  Because the Word of God was not in bonds.  Paul still managed, through the grace and provision of God to preach the Word.  It came to my mind then that the only thing that can actually bind the Word of God is unbelief. 

"And Jesus could do NO miracles there, (except for a few small ones) because of their unbelief."

Imagine, the Word of God not being able to do something!

Recently two people I knew died of terrible diseases.  Both were born again, Spirit filled Christians.  Both were claiming the Word of God concerning healing and professed to be believing for it.  Yet they died.  Why? 

I'm not bringing an indictment against either of them.  I'm asking an honest question because if I ever find myself in the same situation, I want to be able to see a different result.  The Bible is clear that healing is part of our salvation.  It was part of the atonement.  As we might say in America, it's a no-brainer.  It's so clear in scripture that you'd have to be an idiot not to see it.  So why don't we experience it more in our own lives. 

I hate funerals of people who die young.  Especially when those attending had prayed and were "believing" for a different outcome.  I hate it because it puts us in an awkward place.  In an effort to comfort those that have lost a loved one we inject the sovereignty of God as a catch all excuse for why things did not turn out as God has promised.  All the sudden our vocabulary changes.   Or they say "it must not have been God's will for them to live."  That is essentially saying it was God's will to leave behind children and grandchildren and spouses to struggle, hurt and have to rebuild their lives.  Is this the nature of God? 

Doesn't this type of thinking essentially illustrate that although God PROMISED something in His Word, He can at any time and for any reason break that promise and do what He wants?  If this is so, why pray?  Why waste hours and hours praying, believing, studying the Word of God if God is going to do what He wants anyway?  Can we then truly know the will of God or we just captive to His whims? 

Why did God put healing so clearly in the bible if we really can't obtain it here on earth?  How convinced are we of the promises of God and His ability to keep His promises?  Doesn't this say that God does not really listen to our prayers, does not really hear us when we call.  It totally voids Mark 11 which says that if we pray according to His will that he hears us and will "give us what we ask" if we waver not in faith?  Did God really mean what He wrote there?   Can we believe it?  Can we stake our lives and reputations on it?  I guess the real question, when you come right down to it is, can we really trust God?

I just have to say what our Pastor says all the time.  God's Word IS His will!  We CAN know the will of God.  If we don't fully know the will of God, we cannot pray in faith.  If we do not pray in faith we will not recieve anything from God because God himself said that we must pray according to His will and in faith.  I HATE "if it be thy will prayers.  (Jesus prayed that one time in one specific circumstance, so we cannot use it as a catch-all prayer. "If it be thy will" prayers are useless unless you are consecrating yourself to the will of God, which, by the way Jesus already knew!  He knew it was God's will for him to die.  It was just that the fleshy part of Him was having a hard time bowing to that will.)  "If it be thy will" prayers are not based on the promise and will of God, therefore God is under no obligation to answer them.  If you don't know how to pray about something, take some time, search the Word and find the will of God about it.  Then you can pray with full assurance and some clout and God will hear AND answer your prayer, if you don't doubt!
Why, when something does not turn out the way God PROMISED in His Word, can't we just say "we missed it."  Somehow, somewhere we missed it along the way.  I have said this to my husband many times because I am so convinced that healing is for all, at every time, that if I die of a disease I want him to stand on top of my casket and proclaim that God is a healing God and that the reason for me not being healed is laying in the casket. 

Even in our own church there are people believing for things, some concerning healing, and yet they still have not seen it.  Even having the knowledge of healing that we have been privileged to have, the good news that has been preached to us, it still appears to be unprofitable in our lives.  Even I am dealing with a partial loss of vision in one eye and I believe that God can, did and will heal it.   But I haven't seen it yet.  So, for now I've come to the conclusion that it is not because I do not understand healing.  That is God's Word.  There is nothing defective in it.  The problem is on my end.  And what God requires of me to see His promises manifest in my life is faith.  So my faith must be the problem.  I must not fully understand what faith is.  I'm not turning on the faucet right.

Most people don't ever want to admit that there is something defective in their faith.  But what other explanation is there?  If God said it, He will do it.  He does not change His mind.  He does not dangle a beautiful, desirable carrot in front of our faces without giving it to us.  That would violate His character and God will not violate ANY part of who He is.

In the past, healing has been much more a part of the church universal.  In many other countries, it still is.  So why, in America, have we seen such a decline?  Are there seasons of healing?  If so, then there would have to be seasons of salvation.  But we are not willing to think of salvation as we do healing.  That would just be too scary.  No one is willing to take the "God is sovereign" road when speaking of their salvation.  The problem, again, is that you cannot separate salvation and healing in scripture.  Some write healing off as "spiritual healing".  Utter nonsense.  When we are saved, we are changed.  We are not healed.  When we go to heaven, we are changed.  We are not healed!  Heaven is not the ultimate healing.  It is the ultimate change!

Paul told the Corinthians that some of them had died because they did not rightly divide the Lord's body.  They were saved, but they died sick because they did not rightly have faith in the healing part of the Lord's atonement, celebrated in the Lord's supper.

This principle applies to other things as well, not just healing.  Are you depressed?  God has promised you joy!  Are you hurting?  God has promised you peace!  Are you perplexed?  God has promised you understanding.  He does not withhold any good thing from His children.  He is a loving Father that gives what we need, when we need it and in abundance.  The problem does not lie with Him.  It lies with us.  It lies in our faith.

My best friend has MS.  In many ways she is my hero.  Every day she gets out of bed and faces that monster head on.  Just last night she shared a praise.  Certain parts of her body have not been working well for several years because of the MS.  It has cost her precious time and a lot of money because she has had to take certain actions to remedy this as much as she can.   It has amazed me at how her faith has grown and changed through these last 10 years.  Almost daily, she would have some revelation concerning faith and healing.  She fully believes that her healing has already been bought and paid for by Christ through the stripes that He bore.  Just last night she shared that her body is now working properly.  THAT IS A MIRACLE!  She no longer wastes all the time and money on shots and other things to try to get her body to work.  She said something that really struck me when she was telling me.  She said "we believe that I am already healed, according to the promise of God.  We walk by faith and not by sight.  Healing is my inheritance as a child of God, so we just decided that we were going to enforce God's promise in my life." 

There it is!  Faith!  And with faith, comes power to enforce the promise.  We can look at the devil and say "if my Father promised me, then it's a done deal!" Not having to see to believe.  Not gauging progress based on what her body is doing.  Not gauging her faith based on progress, but yet rejoicing in progress.  Once before a year or so ago, her body started to work on it's own and we rejoiced.  But I think that the rejoicing came as a result of the progress.  Now the rejoicing comes before the progress and the progress is now tangible.  That is faith. 

Abraham did not take into account that his and Sarah's body were completely unable to produce an heir.   He just believed and rejoiced that he would.  And because he held to and rejoiced in God's promise, it came to pass in His life.  He tried to help God, thus we have Ishmael.  But even that did not negate the promise of God, because GOD had PROMISED!!  And He ALWAYS keeps His promises if we will just have faith.

What promises have you seen and desired in God's Word?  Are you saved?  They are yours!  Are you living rightly before God?  They are yours!  Go after them and claim them!  You can because you have all the authority of heaven behind you.  Don't go through life living in defeat, living with heartache, living with pain and sickness.  Get a hold of the faith that God has given you and work it.  It's what He gave it to you for!  And SEE and KNOW the promises of God as more than words in His book, as more than your future.  Get them into your present!  Nothing is impossible.  "ONLY BELIEVE!"





 
I love getting up early in the morning and opening my Bible.  It's like God leaves me a prize there everyday.  I can't wait to open up His Word and find what treasure He has put there for me.  Isn't it amazing to think that God is so immense that He could write a book to the whole world, but also to each individual of the world all in the same writing?

Friday, March 9, 2012

Afraid of God?

Hebrews has been my morning fare for the past couple of days.  The first chapter was exceptionally blessed to me as I read of the supremacy of Christ in ALL things.   What a Savior we serve!

This morning found me stuck in Hebrews 4.  Have you ever gotten "stuck" in the Word?  If not, you ought to try it sometime.  Just let a verse captivate you and cause you to think on it for a whole day or a whole week even!  It's like beef jerky.  The more you chew on it, the more flavor comes out and by the time you swallow it, your cravings are completely satisfied!  (I hope comparing the Word to beef jerky doesn't sound "irreverent", which brings me back to Hebrews 4).

Hebrews 4:1

Therefore let us fear lest while a promise remains of entering His rest, any one of you should seem to have come short of it.
It got me thinking of a sermon I heard a few weeks ago on the fear of the Lord.  In this verse the word "fear" comes from the Greek word "phobos", the same word we get our English word phobia from.  It means "fear, frightful, scared, or horrified."    In Christianity we most often think of fearing God in terms of "reverence."  There is a Greek word for reverence, but it is not this form of "phobos".  So we can assume that in this case, we are being told to have the shake-in-your-shoes-can't-hardly-breath-heart-pounding kind of fear.  (I also discovered that there are many other references that use this same word.)

When you get right down to it, God is scary!  Many times in the Old Testament people were terrified in their encounters with God.  I know we live under a new and better covenant, but the fact remains that God has not changed.  He is still as terrifying now as He was then.  Judgement day will bear that out. 

WHY?  Because He alone has the power to determine our final resting place.  He alone can choose to give us our next breath. 

We are to love God and surely He has given us a myriad of reasons to love Him, but the fact remains that He can be just as terrifying. 

Doesn't scripture tell us to
Behold then the kindness and severity of God; to those who fell, severity, but to you, God’s kindness, if you continue in His kindness; otherwise you also will be cut off.
We cannot have an unbalanced view of God or we will err either on the side of paralysis or the other extreme-flippancy.

We can love and fear God at the same time.  (1 Jn. 4:18)   I love my zero turn mower but I also fear it!  Why?  Because it is a powerful machine.  I love what it does and how it does it, but I fear what it can do if I do not operate it properly.  You could say I reverence it in that I respect it enough that I don't do certain things when it's running but that respect first came from just being completely afraid of it.  That kind of fear is healthy for me.  Because of it I will probably not lose an arm or be crushed under the mower's weight.

Scripture instructs us not to fear those on earth that can hurt or kill us. We are not to fear sickness either, but we are to fear the one who can send us to eternal damnation.   Truly, our reverence then comes out of the "phobos" fear of the Lord.

I see way too little "fear of the Lord" in Charismatic circles these days.   It's all  about "Daddy God".  There is a frightful flippancy that borders on disrespect.  It's a flippancy that brings God down to our level.  (Just so you know, God the Father never lowers Himself.  He raises us.)
God often caused "phobos" in people in the New Testament.  In Mk. 4:41, the disciples "feared" Jesus because of His power over the storm.  In Mk. 5 they feared Jesus when he healed the demoniac.  When John saw Jesus in His resurrected body, he fell as a dead man.  That is not reverence, that is terror! Imagine, John was seeing the one that had been his best friend on earth for the first time since his ascension and he was scared to death!

The preacher of sermon I heard said something that kind of summed it all up for me when he said "the truth of the matter is this;  Salvation is not about being saved from sin, it's about being saved from God"   We reverence God because we fear him.  We fear His wrath. We fear His power.  We fear His omnipotence.  When we understand this and let it profit us, then  we can truly love and reverence God as we see the great kindness that He has extended to us . 

"Behold what manner of love the Father has given unto us that we should be called the sons of God."

"It is the kindness of God that leads a man to repentance."

We can only see his kindness when we first have seen  and understand His wrath. 

Am I afraid of God?  Not any longer.  Because I feared Him, I embraced the love that He extended to me with wholehearted devotion.    And because I feared Him, I love Him.  Because I love Him, I reverence Him and I am not flippant concerning the things of God. But it was the knowledge of His judgment that first brought me to consider my ways.  Then when His love was extended, it was an irresistable thing.   
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love."

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

I Love My Hubby! (An Overdue, but not Underdone Valentine)

Valentines Day has come and gone.  The vase of roses has dried up and are waiting for a trip to the trash can.  The candy box is empty but my hubby's tummy looks a little more full!  LOL!  However, I can honestly say that everyday is Valentines Day around our house!


My hubby and I don't get too excited about Valentine's day.  We don't even go out.  It's too crowded, the lines are too long and most couples that we see are sitting and eating quietly with dull expressions on their faces and we get the idea that, at best, this is an obligatory activity on the part of the participants.  We usually wait til the next night or so and go out where there are people who actually want to be out eating together can be found.  It makes the meal much more enjoyable! LOL!


I don't know how the thing got started but somehow the idea of being pressured to express your love to another individual just seems ungodly to us!  LOL!  Now don't think that we are some unromantic couple because that is far from the truth.  In fact, we are often pegged as "dating" by waiters and waitresses.  You see my hubby doesn't wear a wedding ring and I don't always wear mine either.  Several times on-lookers have approached and asked us how long we've been dating.  Why?  Because we hold hands.  Because we're unaware of anything around us.  Because we're laughing!   It always causes us to chuckle as we see the looks on their faces when we tell them that we've been dating for almost 34 years, 29 of which we've been married to each other.  "But...you look so happy together!" is their response!  Duhhhhhhhh........ I think that's how it's supposed to be!


I've said this before but I don't need my husband to send me some sentiment in the mail or get down on one knee and passionately express his love for me, although I do enjoy it when he does.  He shows me EVERYDAY when he gets up and goes to work at all 3 of his jobs that he loves me.  When he hands me the checkbook and tells me to go get what the kids or I need or want, he might as well tell me "I love you."  When he texts me silly things during the day for no reason, when he looks out the corner of his eye at me with that look that only I know and his face crinkles up as a slight grin appears, or he brushes the tops of my feet as I sleep while he is leaving for work, or he asks my opinion or offers a constructive opinion to me--he might as well say "I love you!"  The fact that he never speaks ill of me in public even when he could and still be honest and he rarely even does it to my face, unless I need it, of course, that tells me "I love you."  When he doesn't even want to run 5 minutes to Sheetz to get a cup of coffee without my company, that tells me he loves me.


Is my husband like the suave, perfect chick-flick romantic?  Far from it!  But he does understand how to love someone-for real!  He has when-the-rubber-hits-the-road kind of love, the kind that is committed no matter how hard or easy it may be.  He loves the same through good times and bad and THAT to me is TRUE LOVE!  And THAT is why I love him so!






Happy Valentines Day Honey!