A Typical or Atypical Pastor's Wife-whichever one you come to believe

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Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Hurry Up and Wait

My husband met me for lunch the other day at a local restaurant that is near his work.  We were engrossed in conversation when all of the sudden he jumped up and said "Oh, I have to go!  I have to be at work in 5 minutes!"  "I laughed and said "hurry up and wait!"  You see, my husband is a substitute school bus driver.  He gets paid to sit in a room and wait.  If one of the bus drivers is sick or they don't show up then he is there to cover their bus run.  He has to be one of the first ones there in the morning and the afternoon, but he may not even drive a bus that day.  

I've noticed that people are always in a hurry.  Twice in the last month I've noticed people in cars driving like maniacs through traffic, weaving between lanes like a snake weaves through the grass, cutting people off, almost causing accidents.  

The other day I was driving side by side with another vehicle down the main street in our town.  Suddenly, the woman behind him started honking her horn.  When he pulled a little ahead of me, she zoomed in front of me passing him on the right and then jammed on her breaks so that she could swerve into the lane she had just zoomed out of.  She continued this erratic pattern all the way through town. Eventually my mind drifted off to somewhere else as I putzed along in the traffic to the other end of town.  Just before I reached my destination, the car in front of me abruptly turned into a local business (without using a signal) and once again I had to jam on my breaks to avoid smashing into the back of their vehicle.  Guess who it was?  That's right!  It was the woman from the other end of town that had been in such a big hurry.  She must have caught every red light all the way through town.  She hadn't ended up any further ahead than I was when we had first started out but I was definitely more calm and at peace than she was. 

Not two days later, I was sitting at a red light.  When it turned green the guy beside me crushed his gas pedal to the floor and zoomed ahead in a cloud of smoke from burning rubber.  He sped past me and the public transportation bus that I was behind and got into the lane ahead of the bus just in time to make the exit that leads to the local university.  At the end of that exit is the longest light in town.  I've timed it several times and it's at least a minute and 15 seconds long.  It doesn't stay green for very long either so I almost always catch it when it's red.  As I approached the light, the bus in front of me took the exit to the right.  I stayed left towards the light.  Just as I got up to the intersection the light turned green. I didn't even have to use my brakes to make the turn.   Guess who was in front of me?  You guessed it.  Mr. Smoke and rubber!  He had been sitting at the light waiting for it to turn.  

A verse of scripture passed through my mind. 

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21

We are always in a hurry.  As children we are in a hurry to become teenagers, to get a driver's license, to graduate from high school, to graduate from college, to get a job, to get married, to have kids, to get the kids out of the house, to retire.  It's a vicious mentality.  We are always looking ahead to what's in front of us and when something gets in the way of us getting there as fast as we can, we tend to get irritated and start driving erratically through life! 

It's just silly to think that we can somehow beat God's timetable.  Instead, we ought to just sit quietly where we are, moving ahead as traffic allows and enjoy the scenery along the way.  When we reach our destination, we will be much more ready to handle the tasks that await us there.  I'm sure that when both of those drivers reached their destination they were frustrated, irritated and not at all in right frame of mind.  It probably took some time for them to calm down and get on task with whatever they were rushing to do.  

Scripture talks a lot about waiting on God.  It gives us 21 reasons to wait on God and over 21 blessings received when we wait on God.  Psalm 40 says:

 1 I waited patiently for the LORD; 
And He inclined to me and heard my cry. 
2 He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay, 
And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm. 
3 He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God;
Many will see and fear 
And will trust in the LORD.

So in life, why not just go with the flow?  Trust that God has designed the "traffic" you are in. Every red light and green light is specifically designed so that His plan for your life can unfold in a way that completes His purposes, both for you and for the world. ( Do you ever think about that?  A red or a green light in our lives may just be completing a purpose of God for the world!)   Sit back, be patient and enjoy the ride.  Arrive at your destination ready to do whatever He sent you there to accomplish and enjoy the company of His presence until you get there!

If you are the type that has to hurry, then hurry up and wait at the throne of grace!  Sit at the Lord's feet and wait to hear what He would say about the course and timetable of your life.  Scripture promises us it's a perfect plan because it was designed and initiated by our God who is perfect in all of His ways.  



  1. I love your blog. Its a blessings. Thanks for sharing this, i need to hear it this morning. Am not married and all of my friends are married and with children, and i have been ok with it and happy for them but yesterday it hurt so much when one of them said that it time for me to have a child and stop playing with other peoples chldren. He said it jokingly but it real hurt me. In the evening God spoke to me and said He knows the plans He has for me and reading this now, am feeling much more better. God is in control. Hurry up and wait!
    K from Finland

    1. Dear K,

      Thank you for reading and commenting on my blog. I have many single lady friends who also feel the pressures of marriage, family, and getting on with "life", as if they don't have one unmarried. They often talk to me of the pressures they get from others concerning their marital status. You are not alone! One advantage that you have is that you have nothing keeping you from being totally devoted to the Lord not only in heart, but in time. Take that time and walk the way the Lord has laid before you and if it is in His perfect plan for your happiness, you will meet another along the way to share that walk with who is also walking the same direction. If not, there will be other people to walk different distances with and there will be "spiritual children" which will be yours and the Lord's for all eternity! What an incredible thought! I have many "spiritual daughters" that I will fellowship with FOREVER and they are no less daughters to me than my natural children. Just because you've never given physical birth does not mean you cannot be a mother. I value the single women that take time to "play" with my kids, giving of their time and talents, and investing a part of themselves in my kids. They are a priceless gift, as you also can be. May God abundantly bless you as you "hurry up and wait!" :-)