Here is an excerpt from a book on raising Godly children by Andrew Murray that I found very helpful. Hope it blesses you as well.
“Here is a short summary of the principles on which all training is founded. Training children is a work that cannot be performed without careful thought and determiniation. The infinite significance of this holy work of molding, or really forming and giving shape to an immortal spirit requires much wisdom. To accomplish this great task, we must claim the promise: “if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally…and it shall be given him” (James 1:5)
~Training is more than teaching
Teaching makes a child know and understand what he is to do. Training influences him and sees that he does it. Teaching deals with the child’s mind. Training deals with his will.
~Prevention is better than cure
True training is watching the child to help him prevent mistakes. It is not with the intention of correcting his mistakes. The highest aim of true training is to help the child know that he can obey and do right, that he can do it easily and successfully and delight in doing it.
~Habits must precede principles
During the first years of a child’s life, his body is constantly growing and changing. It is during this time that his lifelong habits can be formed. Habits influence the person by making the performance of certain acts easy and natural. After these are established, the way is prepared for the child to obey rules and principles.”
~Developing a positive attitude is essential to learning
During the early years of childhood, the child is very susceptible to his feelings and impressions. Because of this the parent must try to make doing what is right seem attractive and desirable. The child must develop a favorable attitude toward being good and doing good. Without this positive attitude, habits will have little value. With it, they will be the connecting link by which habits become the actual desired will of the child.
~Example is better than precept
The power of training lies not in what we say and teach, but in what we are and do. It is not the way we think, but the way we live, that makes a difference. It is not our wishes or our ideas, but our will and practice that train our children. By living a principle or ideal, we prove that we love that principle and that it is a part of us. In this way, we influence the young mind to love it and attain it, too.
~Love that draws is more than law that demands.
Traning children rquires a life of self sacrifice. It requires love that “seeketh not its own,” but lives and gives of itself. God has given the wonderful gift of mother-love. When this love is directed into the right channel, it becomes the handmaid of God’s redeeming love. Rules and regulations presented without love always bring about sin and bitterness. Love gives itself, with all it’s thought and strength, to live for others. Love breathes it’s own stronger and better life into the weaker one. Love inspires, and this inspiration is the secret of training.
-Taken from Raising Your Children for Christ by Andrew Murray-