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Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Some Good Advice For The Unmarried

For any younger readers, yes, I do have a few.

Nancy Wilson says:

You must guard your imagination if you want to guard your heart. Don’t feed a lonely heart with cheesy romance novels or chick flicks and fantasize about the men or the relationships described. This can quickly become lust—lusting to be lusted after.

Don’t allow yourself to imagine someone is interested in you when he is just being friendly. Don’t imagine that he had a tender look when he said hello to you, when he was really just giving you a polite greeting. In other words, do not develop wild crushes. If the man in question shows an interest elsewhere, you will be hurt, and depending on how much you indulged your imagination, you may be devastated.

Be realistic about the men who show you attention....Cultivating male group friendships is a healthy alternative to the world’s dating system, but we must not use these friendships to fill a void. Friendships can be sexually charged, and women are usually very ignorant about this.

Friendships should not be intimate, but good-naturedly distant. Would you be able to maintain the friendship on an equal footing if you were married? If not, it is probably an inappropriate friendship. Women should have the kind of friendships with the brothers that are characterized by purity and propriety. If you have to alter your behavior after you are married, you have probably been behaving in an unwise or ungodly manner....

3 comments:

  1. "if you have to alter your behavoir after you are married, you have probably been behaving in a unwise or ungodly manner."
    This made me think! and is a really good point

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  2. this is SO TRUE! especially "Friendships should not be intimate, but good-naturedly distant. Would you be able to maintain the friendship on an equal footing if you were married?"

    Well, the rest of it was really good too... good, practical advice helping us walk in Godliness in ALL relationships! Thank you Cyndi!

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  3. I agree with Specialkae... That is a really good point. It really made me think.

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